A lot of the women I speak to are running around at 100 mph wearing a dozen different hats, desperately trying to have it ALL! I know how it feels, I’m one of them. I hear people saying ‘I’m thinking about work when I’m with the children, and thinking about the children when I’m at work and I don’t feel like I’m doing a good job of either’.
If this sounds like you, here are my top tips for slowing down, focussing on the task at hand and actually getting more done without having to deal with the overwhelming feeling of ‘Busyness’.
Schedule your time. This is especially helpful if you’re working for yourself or if you work from home. Look at the week ahead and schedule your time by blocking out when you are going to be ‘Mum’ and time when you are going to be ‘MumBoss’. If you’re a visual person it can be useful to colour code the blocks. This can really help to define your working hours, looking at the week coming what would you say are your working hours? Can you stick to them? When you have assigned time to spend with your children, try not to give into the temptation to check your e-mails, and when you’re working make sure that you have childcare in place so that you won’t need to be disturbed.
Monotask. Although it feels like there aren’t enough hours in the day and you need to do everything NOW, research has shown that when we try to do two things at once, it actually takes us twice as long. So take one thing at a time and you might find that you get more done.
To do lists. This might sound obvious but just by taking something out of your head and writing it down can help diminish that ‘busy’ feeling we all get. I keep a running list of things on my phone through the week and then when I come to a work day, I find that some of the things happened naturally or aren’t as important as I first thought, but I stopped thinking about them because I wrote them down.
Eat the Frog. This is the concept of focussing on the important things and making sure that they get done. So, take the list you just made and ask yourself what is the most important thing that has to happen today? Get that one thing done, no matter what.
Time for yourself. Looking after yourself is one of the most important things you can do. If you’re not well, none of the things on your list get done. Try to schedule in time for yourself every day. It could be as small as 5 minutes to meditate, 30 minutes to watch your favourite programme, a bath at the end of a long day when everyone’s in bed, but do try to do something for yourself to make it all worth it!